You should strike a certain balance when buying gifts for an expecting mother. She’s going through a massive shift in her life, and you don’t want to reduce her to this new duty she’s taking on. If I was pregnant and the only things people could think to get me for Christmas were novelty t-shirts for my baby, I would be miffed. However, if you’re constantly talking about how much you want a specific expensive item for your baby, I don’t think it would be the worst thing in the world for someone to get it for you. In fact, I think it would be nice to get your partner the specific luxury item they’ve explicitly desired that they want, and that’s precisely what an expecting dad did for his wife. When she realized certain items were off her registry, he told her he bought them for her for Christmas, and her response was less than ideal.